Seriously, I think my biggest relationship problems are when I ask to be left alone and he doesn't.
KL: We were introduced by a mutual friend. She said originally that his marriage was on the rocks. A few months in, he told me that he had his wife had gotten a divorce. I asked for clarification- signed by the judge, right? Yup.. Then nearly 2 years later, I found out that he was in fact, NOT divorced like he said. I sent:
Wow. Just freaking wow.Did you really think I wouldn't find out? Do you really think (mutual friend) and I don't talk?You're a piece of work, lying to me this entire time (yes, I checked- it's been nearly 2 years). Your marriage may have been on the rocks at one time, but saying that you'd gotten a divorce just so you could kiss and make out- that's downright dirty. Then telling me you got back in touch with an "old friend" (your wife, I'm sure), that's a great way to explain away your guilty conscience. Oh, and claiming your "sister" moved in w/her two daughters after a nasty divorce- again, excellent story! Bravo! I bet the "trouble with her ex" on Independence day was actually a family gathering, right?Y'know, with all the travel you do, I wouldn't be surprised if you had a girl in every port. How many women are you playing, anyway??Yeah, you could say I'm pissed.. but that would only be the tip of the iceberg. No, we didn't go "all the way," but you're still a philandering jackass who would deserve it all if your wife left you, took those two little girls you two recently adopted, and took you to the cleaners.Fucking lying sack of shit. Don't contact me again. If you do, I will find you and your family, and I will blow up your happy little lie.Sent 8/28/12, 8:54pm
WB: Second marriage was on its last legs. We had another argument. I was angry and needed space. He had a history of not allowing that. So I left the house, got in the car, and drove... at 10:30pm. Here's the email conversation that followed:
W: Did you go for a drive or did you meet somebody and break the truce?
Me: I needed time to clear my head and calm my heart. I didn't think you'd give me that if I stayed home. This email proves me right. You are incapable of giving me anything I desperately need. Thank you for reminding me both last night and again with this email why I need to be out of this marriage.
DB: I realized he was abusive, so I left. I explained probably half a dozen times after I left that I needed space to heal from his abuse, betrayal, and lies. When he didn't, I finally went no-contact, he chose to do otherwise and.. yeah.
With that in mind, I think that's one of my big things- I want someone who knows me well enough to know that when I'm upset, I need space.... and trusts me enough to know that if he gives me that space, I'll come back when I'm ready.
